The Riskiest Sex Position for Men: Should You Take the Leap?

Ever tried seven minutes in heaven during high school? A summer holiday pastime most of us cringe at the memory of. There was something thrilling about the privacy (cupboard), new location (friend’s parent’s basement) and new sensations (surprising tongue techniques) associated with those early experiences, even if they were more clammy than steamy.

Now, as adults, it takes more than a fumbled bra-unhooking attempt to deliver a thrill – but our lives are frequently too busy for experimentation. Enter summer holiday sex. Sunny days, fresh cut flowers on a hotel armoire, different sheets and time uninterrupted by emails, screeching kids and pets can provide us with the reset we need to shake things up with new summer holiday sex positions.

The downtime offered by the summer holiday is ripe for sexual experimentation. Getty Images

Dr Linda Kirkman, sexologist, sex therapist and researcher, says there’s a reason we’re more open to sexual experimentation on holidays.

“When you’re on holiday, time can feel different. You’re not surrounded by your normal reminders and routines like ‘I haven’t done the dishes, and the dog wants to go out.”

But, before you pour yourself a martini and tie yourself in every knot in the kama sutra, there are steps to set yourself up for success. The first is checking in with your partner before springing a slew of new moves on them; remember, just like skydiving or visiting an all-seafood restaurant, one person’s erotic fantasy can be another’s sexual nightmare. New sex positions can promise unknown pleasures, but there’s always the risk you’ll discover something you absolutely can’t stand, so keep communication flowing.

Communication is key when it comes to trying new things in the bedroom. Getty Images/iStockphoto

And, if you have discovered something you hate, there are a few magic phrases to drop without bruising your partner’s ego and ending the fun (“That’s so annoying” isn’t one of them). Kirkman says to stick with “that would be even better if…”. Keep things upbeat and actionable.

And, for maximum pleasure, avoid what Kirkman calls the “Valentine’s Day error”. Don’t eat before sex. This isn’t just because turning yourself upside down after a four-course French bistro meal can be distractingly stomach-churning.

“Once your blood flow goes to digestion, it’s not going to erectile tissue,” says Kirkman. Erectile tissue resides in both the clitoris and the penis, so this is terrible news for everyone’s chances of orgasm. Plus, most of us feel less than energetic after a large meal.

Eating a large meal before heading to the bedroom could curb your sexual appetite. Getty Images/iStockphoto

“Most people get home from dinner, and all they want to do is sleep,” says Kirkman. So, in her words, “If you’re going out to dinner, f*ck first.”

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