Overcoming Loneliness on Valentine’s Day: A New Perspective
In Manitoba, Canada, Elise Plessis has chosen to stay single for 26 years. Despite her decision, she still feels a sense of FOMO when Valentine’s Day approaches. Plessis, a 53-year-old singleton amongst her family and friends, often struggles with feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy. However, instead of wallowing in self-pity, she has found solace in helping others – a common recommendation from loneliness researchers and psychologists.
Last year, Plessis became a certified matchmaker and is now organizing a speed-dating event leading up to Valentine’s Day. She sees it as a way to contribute positively, even if she hasn’t found love herself. Valentine’s Day, often criticized as a “forced” and commercialized holiday, is evolving into a day of celebrating all forms of love and friendship. This year, amidst a public health advisory declaring loneliness as an “epidemic” with severe consequences, the significance of human connection is more pronounced.
According to Dr. Vivek Murthy, the former U.S. surgeon general, loneliness can be as harmful as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day and costs the healthcare industry billions annually. Approximately half of U.S. adults have experienced loneliness, a problem that predates the pandemic but has worsened in recent years. Loneliness is described as a vital signal from the body, indicating a need for essential survival elements that are lacking.
While some may view loneliness as an exaggerated issue, Dr. David Sbarra, a psychology professor at the University of Arizona, believes that Valentine’s Day can intensify psychological distress for those already feeling lonely. The holiday has become a profitable industry, with dating apps, gift guides, and various products catered to both enthusiasts and detractors of the occasion. Additionally, Galentine’s Day on Feb. 13 has emerged as a celebration for singles and friends, expanding the scope of love beyond romantic relationships.
In conclusion, while Valentine’s Day may evoke mixed emotions for individuals like Elise Plessis, it also serves as an opportunity to combat loneliness and foster connections. By shifting the focus from commercialization to genuine human connection, this holiday can be a source of comfort and companionship for those in need.